Fashion and the clothes you choose reflect and affect your mood and attitude.

How to uplift your confidence through fashion.

Fashion + Self-Love Party, Day 9.
Guest post by Lia from A Southern Girl, Lia.

Hello there my Ladies! This post is all about self-love, Fashion and how to embrace confidence. How can Fashion help you feel better, bring you up when you are not feeling good about your self? Well, let me tell you my ladies that dressing up affects your attitude and confidence. I personally believe the reason of this is because you are putting your mind on to something different. So you stop over thinking about your current feelings or situation. And the magic begins when you find a super cute outfit, you put it on grab some heels and Bam! You see a different person in the mirror and so you start acting like one too. Your confidence starts showing and you start building a high self-esteem. Don’t forget that little dance we all do in front of the mirror when we are feeling fabulous.

Let’s talk a little bit about self-esteem.

On my personal opinion I believe that a person’s self-esteem depends on their surroundings, the people they have in their circle. Such as family friends and acquaintances. In general what you hear and see. We leave in a world with hatred, negativity, jealousy, and envy. Sad but true! We all know at least one person like this. The way a person can uplift you just by saying something nice, can also bring you down with a bad remark. Words can really make you or break you.

Reason I’m saying this is because I personally been through this. On my early teen years, one of my family members would constantly tease me because I was a late bloomer and super thin. Now on the other hand.. my best friend at the moment was younger and had curves everywhere. The words struck me and I would feel uncomfortable, no matter what I was wearing. So I was always on my baggy pants and big t-shirts with a very low ponytail. It was somehow showing my emotions. (Reminder: skinny girls have feelings too. The same way as it is not okay to make fun or call chubby girls names, it is not okay to make fun or call thin girls names). Now that this person who made fun of me was out of the picture. I began to dress up for school wearing high heels, doing my makeup and hair. And I felt Great!

How to work on your confidence:

Learn how to love yourself inside and out. Know who you are and own it, Girl! For example, what are your qualities? What are you good at? Now grab that and use it, you will attract the right kind of people to you. Be your own kind of self and you won’t even bother worrying about what anyone else thinks of you. Reason is you’ll be too busy feeling happy and having a great time. For example: if you wear a dress and you don’t feel comfortable or something is not your style, it will show. But if you are rocking on something you love no matter what anyone else thinks, you’ll be spilling all your fabulousness everywhere. So go out there and find a passion! That will help boost up your confidence.

Using fashion to uplift your confidence

Now the question is how to use fashion to help you lift you up when you are feeling down. What I like to do is go on to Pinterest for motivation (Check out my fashion board here) google my favorite girls out there because I share the same taste in style–which are the fabulous Jennifer Lopez, beautiful Victoria Beckham, and the greatest of them all the sophisticated and classy Coco Chanel. When I find an outfit that I like, I save the picture on my phone so when I’m out shopping I look for pieces similar to the outfit on the picture.

Step by Step: how I uplift myself

• I Turn on my playlist to something that will help set up the mood, while I’m typing this I’m listening to Destiny’s Child – Soldier (something with sass and attitude)
• Half ways through the first song, and with my mood up, I get up (dancing of course) and start going through my closet trying out different outfits until I find the one that makes me feel fierce (fierce; a state of mind) and also suitable for the occasion.
• Now that I have the outfit, next step is the makeup and hair, same as the outfit picking it all depends on my mood and the occasion.
• Last and most important to me are the heels because I love heels. And because heels help with a good posture and make me feel feminine and unstoppable.

There it is! I hope that my step by step routine is of help to you, if you ever feel down and need some help lifting yourself up. If you do try it out please let me know how it worked for you. 🙂

It is said that anything you add helps boost your confidence such as…

1. walking in heels
2. a new haircut
3. wearing a certain color of lippie, etc.

When I received the email from my wonderful friend Alissa from StoryBehindTheCoth.com to team up and be one of her guest bloggers, I was super excited and nervous because I’ve never done something like this. This is such a great opportunity for me and a challenge to grow in so many different ways. Thank you so much for the opportunity, Alissa!

And thanks to all the lovely guest bloggers who joined, it was so much fun getting to know you guys. Thank you everyone for the amazing support.

x?x? -(ASG)Lia

–Guest post by Lia.
Lia writes the blog A Southern Girl, Lia.
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Do you have a routine that uplifts your confidence?

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