Delicate Power – A Kick-Ass Outfit for Rediscovering My Strength

by | Apr 20, 2020 | Alissa's Style, Kick-Ass Style | 29 comments

More often than not, i’m in tune with the gentle, empathetic, understanding, and open-minded side of myself.

These qualities tend to come out in my clothes, too: Comfy with slightly oversized silhouettes that swallow me up in coziness. Dainty A-line skirts that exude graceful femininity. Deep, muted colors that are comforting and friendly but tend to make me just blend into the background.

Though i enjoy being creative with my outfits, i don’t like being center stage, and it shows.
But there’s an edgier side of me that doesn’t often see the light of day.
The side of me that longs for independence, self-sufficiency, adventure, and justice.
The side that can at times be cynical in pursuit of strength.
The side of me that was obsessed with my red superhero cape in preschool; that begged my mom for karate lessons at age 6, but didn’t get them; that grew up zealously rewatching Spider-Man, the Matrix, and X-Men; that competed with the boys in matters of strength and speed on the playground, and greatly preferred these times over girly, elementary-school gossip.
The side of me that strangely (while my mom constantly warned me and my sister to be careful playing outside) dreamed of being kidnapped, because (at 8-years-old) i genuinely believed it would be an amazing opportunity to outsmart the bad guys, kick ass, and get the adventure and self-confidence i longed for.
The side of me that shoved a friend off the swing in my childhood backyard, fuming with anger, because he made fun of my sister.
It’s not exactly a “pure” side of me, and it’s certainly different from the gentler aspects of myself. But it’s still me–A part of me i’ve suppressed rather than grown and refined.

Deep down, i want this side of me to be able to come out. To be able to feel strong, sure, independent and able to stand up for myself and others.

At 23, i still haven’t been able to truly exercise my independence. I’ve always had a sense of shelter. I’m grateful for those times, but i long to grow.

I long to let these different aspects of myself intertwine into something more beautiful. Strong, but graceful; Seeking both justice and mercy in the very same heartbeat, without contradiction.

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  1. Peachy A.
    Peachy A. on April 23, 2020 at 3:46 am

    I love your outfit. It looks bad ass, independent.. strong. I also like how it’s so chic and feminine. Great choice!

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  2. Priya
    Priya on April 22, 2020 at 1:04 pm

    I love your skirt! In my childhood , a girl came to hit my sister and I caught her by her collar and shook her so hard that she ran away ! Till date I am proud of it! 🙂

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  3. Nyxinked
    Nyxinked on April 22, 2020 at 2:55 am

    Yassss girl! I love this outfit! I don’t know if I’d have the confidence to wear it though.

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  4. littlemisadvencha
    littlemisadvencha on April 22, 2020 at 12:53 am

    Your outfit is so chic! Im loving that skirt with the stockings. <3 So cute!

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  5. Marie
    Marie on April 21, 2020 at 6:54 pm

    These are some really cute outfits. And good for you for being determined to go out there and make your way instead of being controlled by the norms and expectations.

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  6. Britt | Shed Happens (@ShedHappenscmty)
    Britt | Shed Happens (@ShedHappenscmty) on April 21, 2020 at 4:09 pm

    I love that skirt! I feel like you and I were ‘cut from the same cloth’ in many ways. The main difference? My parents did put me in karate and I am a black belt now 🙂 It became a BIG part of my childhood, which I am SO grateful for.

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  7. Tessa
    Tessa on April 21, 2020 at 2:24 pm

    Let that inner self out! It looks great on you girl! This outfit is amazing and should be worn everywhere.

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  8. Waren Jean Go
    Waren Jean Go on April 21, 2020 at 2:11 pm

    Yes, it’s time to take that inner strength come out! I love the bomber jacket by the way, so pretty, and so are you!

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  9. ashrugh
    ashrugh on April 21, 2020 at 1:35 pm

    Honey it is time to let that part of you shine! Seek your adventure- don’t suppress it any longer! It’s a part of you for a reason, I think it’s time for you to explore that reason a little more.

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    • Alissa Ackerman
      Alissa Ackerman on April 21, 2020 at 1:58 pm

      Thank you! I’m definitely looking forward to exploring it more… It’s a chaotic side of me, which scares me a little, but suppressing it isn’t any good! I look forward to turning it into strength 💪

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  10. Tara Pittman
    Tara Pittman on April 21, 2020 at 12:01 pm

    That is a cute skirt. The building with the plastic is interesting

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    • Alissa Ackerman
      Alissa Ackerman on April 21, 2020 at 1:55 pm

      Thank you! And yeah.. It’s under renovation, but i’ve been wondering why it’s all covered in plastic..I thought it looked wonderfully chaotic for the photo shoot!

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